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Where to Meet Gay Men Into BDSM

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Want to meet local gay men to share your kinky side with? Whether you have a fetish, are into bondage, or want to explore domination and submission, try these ideas for meeting gay men who are into BDSM.

Gay BDSM Dating Sites

It doesn’t get any easier than this. Hookup apps like Grindr are great, but imagine a service that caters specifically to men in the BDSM community. There are only a handful out there, and the one I recommend is GayBDSMdate.com. You’ll fine more local guys into fetish and BDSM here than anywhere else. They also offer a decent free account that lets you check out the bdsm chat rooms and live member videos at no cost, which is a great way to take gay bdsm dating for a test drive with no investment.

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Local Gay BDSM Events

Want to go the in-person route and meet a lot of kinky guys in one place? Search for events in your city that cater to this scene. Depending on where you live you might be able to find gay fetish clubs or attend gay fetish and BDSM nights at local night spots. Some events that are much larger but happen less frequently are BDSM conventions and annual parties.

Why not attend a munch? A munch allows you to meet and sit down with other kinksters in the light of day, in a no-pressure environment. Munches are a great place to meet new people who share your interests and to learn more about your local BDSM community. Want to know more about BDSM munches? Read: The BDSM Munch article over at KinkLovers.com

Gay BDSM Vacations

Some resorts that are LGBT friendly or that cater only to the gay community have “fetish weeks” or weekends dedicated to kinky men and BDSM play. There are also hotels and smaller vacation spots that offer dungeons and kink-friendly accomdations. We’ll be writing a more detailed post about gay BDSM resorts and vacations in the coming weeks.

Online Groups and Meetups

Community sites are also a good way to connect with the gay BDSM scene near you. I found one gay fetish group near me on Meetup.com, but what types of events and who attends will vary, depending on where you live. Another good option is meeting guys on Facebook! Look for groups and pages related to your interest and start participating. For instance, check out the Gay BDSM Date Facebook page. Lastly, you could try a free social site like Fetlife.com, but be aware that it’s not strictly for gay men.

Got any tips to add to this list? Where do you prefer to meet kinky gay guys?

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